Some people say adoptees find it difficult to have a relationship. They think adoptees have attachment issues. They fear seperation, longtime relationships or can’t express their feelings. I don’t want to deny these problems because they do occur. When I was a child I feared seperation. I didn’t like it when my parents left the house or went on holidays. Still they did and after a while I learned that I had nothing to fear. Like I said before in one of my other blogposts, fear is irrational. Moreover accidents always happen unexpected. Today it’s Valentine’s day and I’m in a relationship for a longtime. Longtime realtionships are hard to maintain. Still I think it’s hard for everyone, not only for adoptees. People must accept themselves in order to accept the other. Besides that people have to accept all the flaws and faults from the other person too. It is a hard job but if it does work you will have an open, wonderfull and great relationship If you can see the beauty in someone’s flaws and faults means you find them even more beautiful in their strengths and qualities. Thus, relationships are never easy to handle but if they do work out, it’s a blessing.
My advice: open your heart and just try! You will get heart broken , but once you find the right person nothing else matters and you will do it all again.
Love, the Happy Panda!
Stories from an adoptee 